When it comes to personality types, I find myself slap bang in the middle between introvert and extrovert. The context and the company that I find myself in, largely impacts the way that I feel, present myself and interact with others.
I often find my introverted self unsure of what to say next and seeking out that place in which I can be alone to re energise. Yet, ironically, there’s nothing I enjoy more than standing before an audience of hundreds of people, making them laugh. It’s my day job, infact.
Before I started pursuing my own work, a caring friend of mine warned me that it might become lonely, but in fact, it’s the perfect balance for me. High energy, people driven events followed by days in my office, alone.
I recently had a meeting with someone with regards to my work. This person is super friendly, but I felt the introverted nervousness kick in days before the meeting.
I knew that I needed to tap into my inner extrovert to ensure a flowing conversation and therefore maximise this meeting for the benefit of both of us.
As I sat waiting for him to arrive, I remembered something I’d read in Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards.
Take up as much body space as you can
Simple but effective and it works!!! I embraced and positioned myself as the person I was meeting entered the room, with one arm rested on the top my chairs back and the other hand on the table, holding my coffee.
My confidnece boomed. I felt comfortable. I engaged, conversation flowed and we left with more conversation to follow up next time.
Are you introvert or extrovert?
What social hacks do you put into place?
Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People has been super helpful to me. I’d highly reccomend it.